Tuesday, April 17, 2012

Now is The Time!

I've been a fan of Jonathan Cainer for many years now. His accuracy often astounds me. So when I read this today, following my first post in a while yesterday, I had to smile. It seems NOW, IS a good time to start afresh!

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Jonathan's Thought For The Day
New Start
AstrocatIn early January, I explained that New Year is rarely the right time for a new start. There are many other dates which might be more suitable for dropping old habits. If you've been following your forecast since then, you will have already seen me point out such times. More good opportunities are due in the next few weeks. I'm particularly excited about the rare transit of Venus on June 6. But while Mars is just picking up momentum after a long retrograde phase, right now is a fine time for anyone who seeks to summon more self-discipline!

Monday, April 16, 2012

Just Blog!

Like most things, the longer I leave it, the more difficult it becomes. Blogging included. I'm out of the habit. I've had stuff going on. Emotions. Thoughts. Feelings. Questions. Not to mention overseas travel, family visits and a new nephew. All part of life, the full spectrum. Writing and blogging got put to one side. Nothing really wrong with that in essence, apart from the fact that I really do love to write. It serves many purposes for me. Blogging is a kind of journaling but less personal, less intimate. At least that has always been my intention. And yet, I don't think it hurts a blog to be a bit personal. It makes it interesting. We feel we are getting more when we get emotions too. Or is that just me?

I haven't blogged in 2 months. All my potential blog entries felt too personal. Too private to share. Maybe there is just some stuff I haven't quite come to terms with yet and that is why if all feels too intimate, to be honest, I'm not entirely sure. What I did realise today though is that I just need to DO IT! Write. Blog. Journal. Whatever form it takes is not really important, but the process is.

So it may be April 16th....hardly a popular day for resolutions of any kind as far as I know, but today I re-commit to writing. To Just Doing It. To stop thinking too much about it, to stop analysing every word that I  may want to share. To be brave and to be free. It is no co-incidence that I decided to log on to my blog today to remind myself what my last post actually was...and I found myself reading the very words that have been playing over in my mind today.....


You must learn one thing:
the world was made to be free in.
 
Give up all the other worlds
except the one to which you belong.
 
Sometimes it takes darkness and the sweet
confinement of your aloneness
to learn
 
anything or anyone
that does not bring you alive
 
is too small for you.
 
~ David Whyte ~

Tuesday, February 14, 2012

What do You Love and what brings You alive?


Sweet Darkness
 
When your eyes are tired
the world is tired also.
 
When your vision has gone
no part of the world can find you.
 
Time to go into the dark
where the night has eyes
to recognize its own.
 
There you can be sure
you are not beyond love.
 
The dark will be your womb
tonight.
 
The night will give you a horizon
further than you can see.
 
You must learn one thing:
the world was made to be free in.
 
Give up all the other worlds
except the one to which you belong.
 
Sometimes it takes darkness and the sweet
confinement of your aloneness
to learn
 
anything or anyone
that does not bring you alive
 
is too small for you.
 
~ David Whyte ~
 
 
(House of Belonging)
 

Saturday, February 11, 2012

What's Normal Anyway?

This weekend I'm wrestling a little with the fact that Alan is in the UK without me. It feels a bit odd. Him being there, in the Homeland and me here. Especially when there is a Big family occasion being celebrated. I should be there, I'd like to be there.....but I'm not. For practical reasons. It could be worse though, after all, I will get a chance to see my immediate family and some of my friends next month when it's my turn to fly. I can't wait. Aunt status is due to kick in any day now and I am very excited about that. I'm sure it will be another pull in the direction of the UK, a bit of tug on the heart strings but I must learn to be a good Aunt from afar. That's just the way it is right  now. I've had to learn to be a daughter, a sister and a friend from afar...I'll just add Aunt to the pile.

Sometimes this life we lead feels quite frustrating. A little bit sad, to be away from family and old friends. I sometimes wonder why our life has to be so different...so "not normal". Why don't we live close to our family...have loads of friends on our doorstep... and be nearby for loved ones when they need us unexpectedly? The obvious answer is because we chose to move to Canada of course but that does not always feel like a reasonable explanation. Most days Ottawa feels like home these days. It's where we live, it's where our home is. Where our life is. That all sounds very normal...and so the rest falls into place around it...most days...until a special day or a sad day pops up then the distance is highlighted and the questions arise.

At times like these, I remind myself that I have many friends...and many of those friends are living a very similar life to us. Far away from their families...and old friends. Then it doesn't feel so odd any more. It's a life style. Most of the time it's wonderful to be an explorer...to challenge yourself  by living in a country that is not strictly speaking yours. What is Normal anyway?

Thursday, January 5, 2012

Goodbye 2011

Well where did that month go?

Looking back over the last month of 2011, I think it's fair to say that it was a month of ups and downs.  Highs and Lows. The first half had some rough patches as I struggled to get back to full health after my run in with laryngitis and the things that accompanied it. My month was a bit light on the teaching front because of it...well that, and the reduced Christmas schedule, which definitely turned out to be a blessing, giving me a little more time to rest and do all those pre-holiday jobs that need doing, no matter how simple you try to keep things.

As the Christmas week approached however, it was time for some fun. Another road trip! We enjoy road trips and we have taken 2 in the last 2 weeks! The first destination was Muskoka, our new favourite place to visit with a pit stop in Toronto first for a spot of business and pleasure. Just pleasure for me :-) I got to dance some Nia with my Toronto Nia teacher, Martha Randall and reconnect with some of my fellow white belt graduates for the first time since July...that was special and I almost got to connect with another friend too, but not quite. Next time hopefully. We took in a show...well, you have to when in the city, especially at Christmas time....

Muskoka was perfect for my birthday. A wonderful place to relax and get pampered. The only thing that would have made it more perfect would have been to see it snow...or to see some snow there! But alas, despite the -12 temperatures there was no snow in sight between December 22 & 24. Oh well. It made for a much easier journey, on the plus side. Beautiful weather in both directions for a road trip. Bright blue skies, sunshine and even some snow-topped evergreens as we made our way through the lake-ridden landscape, on our way home on Christmas Eve. Beautiful!

Christmas was quiet. Quiet is good but I did miss my family this year, and I'm looking forward to March.

Then came NewYear and road trip number 2, taking us to Massachusetts, over the border. It's never my favourite time of year and has always been a slightly tricky time for me, not really sure why but I suspect I'm not the only one. It is a time when we can't help but review the year that has passed and maybe even judge it just a little. Our achievements, or if we feel like being especially hard on ourselves, the lack there of. The sad bits, the losses. If we're lucky however, we don't forget to remember the best bits. The friends we've made, the love we've given and received. The simple pleasures. The life lessons.

I was happy to retreat this year, spiritually retreat....for the first time. It was wonderful to immerse ourselves into such a nurturing environment and let everything else go. To roll out of bed at some unearthly hour and roll onto our mats for a morning yoga class. To eat a healthy breakfast and to study with an inspiring teacher. To meditate. To meet some like minded people and to be surrounded by beautiful countryside. To welcome 2012 in with some fabulous and joyful music... and to not have a hangover on New Years Day. I enjoyed the simplicity of this NewYear's Eve. The shift to this new year was more about the letting go of last year and any challenges it presented and moving joyfully and positively into the year ahead. I think it can be very easy to forget the significance of this sometimes with all the hype around the celebrations...the parties and the alcohol. I'd do it again in a heartbeat.

Wednesday, November 30, 2011

System re-boot

There comes a time for all of us, even to us relatively healthy, keen yoga types, when it all goes a bit pear shaped. Without any decent warning, we get ill. Our preventative methods fail us and we find ourselves unable to do anything other than surrender to it. At least that is the way I see it. I'm lucky in that I rarely get sick and if I feel something creeping up on me, I am usually able to do some stuff that quickly diverts it and prevents it from getting a grip on my system. I like that about my relationship with my body, I feel we know one another fairly well.

However, this week it's a different story. I failed in my ability to divert the course of this cold bug and it has me in it's grips. Admittedly, it really is not completely disabling me, I don't feel terribly ill with it all but it is enough to stop me from teaching as it's affecting my voice and my ability to speak. That is never good for a yoga teacher, or any kind of teacher and a whole host of other professions I'd imagine, I am hardly alone here, I appreciate that!

There is always this slight stigma attached to being sick, as a yoga teacher though, or so I feel. I can't say I judge others in the profession harshly when they fall ill, because we are all human, of course we are, but it has been said to me on more than one occasion...how is it that I am ill when I do yoga...isn't it supposed to keep you healthy? Yeah Yeah. And more to the point, yes it is and yes it does. I have no doubt in my mind that if I did not have a regular yoga practice, this thing would have me in a much tighter grip, more like a vice, probably in bed for days, not the one day that I succumbed to, knowing that to surrender my Sunday would be worth it in the healing process. When our physical body displays signs that we are sick, I believe it's important that we listen and respond. There are so many pressures for the majority of us these days, to carry on, be strong, be some sort of Superwoman....or Superman of course! I used feel I had to be that person, that I'd appear weak if I took a day off or I'd upset someone if I let them down by calling in sick. I'm still human so I can't say I never feel those pressures, and of course those close to me know that I'm also lucky enough not to have to keep up for other reasons, but these days I know that to surrender to the inevitable is not a bad thing. It's more about honouring our body and our mind, respecting the need for rest and healing. We tend to get ill when we have an element of stress in our lives, whether we realise it at the time or not, and I believe, the antidote is to de-stress, let it out, re-boot the system and then get back to it, whatever It is.

I've been de-stressing and re-booting for a few days now and quite frankly I'm getting bored. I want to be well, I want to be able to speak without coughing, I want my real voice back. So, after a bit of talking with myself and asking my friends for some tips, I'm stepping up the natural remedies in the hope that I can kick this in the next day or so and be fighting fit for my next class.

I AM going to do it.

Thursday, November 24, 2011

Why so restless?

It's becoming a bit of a habit; long gaps between blog entries. Yes, I have been busy, but not that busy. Life was full and eventful in Hong Kong and I found time to blog at least once a week, often a couple of times each week. So what's that all about? I've been giving it some thought and it appears to run much deeper than the availability of time. Of course it does.

I started this blog so that I could write about the transition from one lifestyle in one country, to another lifestyle in another country. Namely the transition from Hong Kong back to Canada. As can be seen from the number of blogs and more to the point, the content of the blog so far, this transition has been somewhat slow. I didn't exactly arrive back in Canada and make any great leaps and bounds forward or indeed in any direction. I'm OK with that, or rather I have been OK with that, but now, now that things have started to move in a definite direction and I am teaching again, I find myself somewhat restless and wanting things to continue to shift and grow. On the one hand I actually need time to get back into the flow of teaching yoga and to re-find my teaching style and to keep up on the study required to achieve that and to keep my teaching fresh and interesting, both to me and my students. So yes, this can take some time...reading and practicing and it is amazing to me how much of the day it can fill if you allow it to. That is all as it should be and I have no complaints. Things are going well.

So then, why so restless?

I have some thoughts, some ideas about what else I want to take on, but they are all new to me and require me to grow and explore parts of me I have not explored before. Sounds great in theory, at least I think so, but in reality, my reality, it's all rather daunting too. I am finding it hard to get started. To know where to start. Being so organised by nature, I find it hard to believe that I am struggling to find a plan of action, but I am and that is the reason I think for my restlessness. I have energy within me that wants to be utilised, I am just struggling to find a pathway, a clear direction for it to take.

I know I have friends who believe I have a perfect life...so much free time, hardly any commitments, a lot of freedom. It is indeed, a wonderful life. I do have a lot of freedom (at the moment) but that in itself can be extremely daunting. If you have never experienced it before, you may not believe me, but all I can tell you is that with so many choices and possible ways forward, it can become confusing and difficult to decide which route to take. I am finding that in order to make progress, I need to work within some constraints. To choose a direction and simply focus on that. I thought I used to be good at multi-tasking but it seems things have changed. It's a bit like successful meditation. Choose a point of focus, and stick with it.  In order to succeed, I think I actually need a little less freedom and maybe even a deadline or two. Never thought I'd say that.

So...the transition continues. There is nothing to see right now, but things are simmering below the surface and hopefully before too long I will have a breakthrough!